Work Life Harmony with Jonathan Dunn

Dr. Cliff Fisher: Quite frankly, I think balance has been BS. Like, I don't know that there's any time in our lives that there's truly this great balance. But there's a way to have a harmony. And that's really what dream Leadership Institute is about. That's what John D and I are about.

Welcome to awaken greatness with Dr. Cliff Fisher. And Jonathan Dunn, brought to you by Dream leader Institute, where we awaken greatness, give you the tools to find and create your greatest life, and we raise the consciousness of the planet. And so I'm really excited to pick up where we left off last time we were talking about, like, what are your six priorities? What are the things that are most important to you? And so I would love to dive into that and take it to the next level. Because quite frankly, all of us say we have our priorities, but are we truly living them? And honestly, do we even have enough time to live our priorities? So Jonathan, Dunn, welcome. Super excited to do this one. And I think you had mentioned one thing that I thought was really powerful was that this drill is one of the most eye opening drills that we do.

Dr. Cliff Fisher: Just to backtrack a little bit if you guys are new to this, just when we're talking about priorities, it's things like family, God health partners, our children work, whatever those priorities are. So just I just don't want you guys have that blank stares. We're going through this. So yeah.

Okay, so as an example here, my number one priority in my life is indeed God. But if I just say it's God, does it really mean anything? Where's the rubber meets the road? So what would my 123 look like? Well, number one, I read Jesus calling and an app called light of day, every single solitary day. So that's my first action of really showing God that God is number one and my life. Then my number two is I do a daily meditation, slash coffee hour with God. And then number three, I really I go to Mass, once a week, church, whatever you want to call it. I do that once a week. So I say God's number one. And then what the 123 underneath that is for is what are the three actions you're really putting out there. into the universe that show God is number one, or whatever your number one is. And I'll give one more example. My second most important priority. Many years ago, I had some childhood trauma. And I was working with a counselor to work my way through it. And my counselor and told me the greatest gift I could give to the world was me being my healthiest self, the greatest gift I could give to my family, my team, the viewing audience out there, Dr. Cliff, our team at DOI is my healthiest self. So as fate would have it, my second most important priority is my healthiest self. Kind of what are the top three there? Number one, my exercise routine, be as specific as possible here, you'll see that as we go into the next phase, I do a daily 5k weights four times a week, follow a sleep routine, if you will, the body like a million dollar racehorse set on Saturday, you know, and that's just three of the things by the way. And that's how I show the world my healthiest self is there. There's also reading involved in that. A lot of other things. It's obviously very connected to God. But you'll see where we're headed with this when we get to the next the next phase. So for me, the examples finally would be God number one. Priority number two is my healthiest self priority three is my wife. priority for our BI children. Priority five is the dream leader Institute. And priority six is actually hobbies slash everyone else. And one of the things you're going to learn in this drill is something that Dr. Cliff and I spoke about last time, we're telling you it's mathematically impossible to have more than six priorities. And on that subject, if you went to my wife, Jennifer's her name and said you know Johnny and she we do these drills together is got you number three, she'd say, I know Johnny's got me number three, but man, he sure makes me feel like number one. So just because these are ordered, it doesn't mean they're all not really number one. So go ahead, what we want you to do, you've got your six priorities filled out now do your three action steps that are going to show that priority they're a priority. Dr. Cliff, is there anything that you would like to add here

Dr. Cliff Fisher: is really critical as we're processing this because we we named it specifically this a lot of times we've heard work life balance, but we really want to work life harmony, because quite frankly, I think balance has been BS like I don't know that there's any time in our lives that there's truly this great balance. But there's a way to have a harmony. And that's really what dream Leadership Institute is about. That's what John Dee and I are about. Because we want to create that harmony have these agreements, make sure that our priorities, our priorities. And honestly, I think the way we measure our priorities, where do we spend our time, our energy, our money and our focus? No,

I agree. And he said something, you know, very, very important there. And one of the goals like of spending time with Dream leader Institute is this. And it's kind of you know what Dr. Cliff said, We want you to love going to work every day. And then, you know, when you get home, and your kid runs up to here, or if you don't have a kid and they say, Hey, how was work and you go, and I loved it. And the kid says, Well, man, that's great to hear, why did you come home, and then the mom or dad says, Because I love you even more. And then you know, when you're out and your social life or doing activities that you love that, you know, I always say everything in life defaults back to our core belief. Because our beliefs become our thoughts, our thoughts become our action, et cetera, et cetera. And most people don't even believe that's possible. And we're here to tell you and show you it is possible. But now, this is the trickiest part of this drawer. And we want to emphasize like, don't worry about this being perfect. Okay, this is more about introducing you to the concept. Maybe you know what I'm about to tell you now, maybe you haven't figured it out yet. But the real currency in life is time. And it's not infinite. So here's what we're asking you to do. For God to be my number one priority. And God really is. We all get 168 hours in the week. It's not negotiable. God gets 12 and a half of was 168. And I'm talking about the real intentional time. I mean, I'm praying ceaselessly throughout the day. I don't I don't count that. But whatever your number one priority is, for it to really be a number one priority based upon the actions you listed. How many hours is that going to take? And I don't want to complicate this, too. But I encourage everyone to do two columns here. What's it currently taking? And what would it get? You know, in my most harmonious world, kind of an aspirational one. So go ahead through priority one, priority two, priority 345 And six, and write out how many hours of the 168 that it would get to be a true priority. And then we'll go into the back page, which is where it gets very, very interesting. But Dr. Cliff once again, anything you want to chime in here?

Dr. Cliff Fisher: No, I think just write those you know, three things about these things, you know, how are you making those a priority? What are the actions that you're taking, to truly make that priority on your top six, because we only get six.

Dr. Cliff Fisher: Oh yeah I know. We've done it like, Yeah, I mean, people don't have any hours left.

Don't even make it to the sixth priority. And they're out of time. Yep. And I go, this is why I don't ask people to do stuff, because I know the vast majority of the populations. Ah, calendar is a train wreck. And by the way, Dr. Cliff, most people have priority of health overwork, and what do you think Dr. Cliff is the first thing priority that struggles when work ramps up?

Dr. Cliff Fisher: Yeah. Health, Health and Exercise. People just run out of time.

And their families? Yep. And it's disgusting. You know, Dr. Cliff, I did this with a CPA group. Yesterday, I was talking to you that about before, before the podcast became, yeah, one guy, he starts crying and is sick to his stomach. And he totally understands his life because he's on 191 hours before he gets to the end. And you can have more than six priorities quite quite frankly, I really can't have more than five. Like I said, the first thing, if you have more than a few priorities, you really don't have any priorities. So go ahead, go through all of those. If anything's redundant from an earlier category, obviously, don't double subtract it. We just didn't know what people would list when we made this shape. But then the next thing you see is Love Languages of relationships. Every one of the the world wants a level relationships that are world class and filled with love. So how much time would you spend on that in a perfect world? You know, if there's no redundancy there, go ahead, subtract that out. Okay, everybody gets a little, a little email thing on their phones and says how much screen time they had shandy spent checking email if you're a leader. How many times do you email people, because most of your people, they don't even have time left in their lives. And you know, ever every email you sent their family is suffering. By the way, maybe the job has to get done. But maybe you need to expand your staff. Starting out and out there. Okay, the next category, once again, you probably have this is one of your six priorities. Like, you know, when you go on the airplane, they first tell you how to put on a seatbelt, which is bizarre. I'm like, I hope I'm not flying with people who don't know how to put on a seatbelt, except for young children. The second one is you know, if you get in a water landing, they call it and I'm like, Ah, it's a crash. And no, I don't want to save my seat cushion that has had a ton of butts sitting on it as a souvenir if I happen to survive the water landing. But the third one is put on your oxygen mask. Even if you have young kids put it on first. Because all of us are here to serve and serve powerfully. This is a fact. So if you have any time left, how much time do you need to spend putting on your oxygen mask every day? subtract that out once again, based in reality. And maybe do an aspirational one. The next one? Why do so many people that live their dreams? Well, quite frankly, I'm sure if you're going through the sheet, you're probably in 180 hours already. So I went to hell, you're gonna do it. And that's all I can tell you. schedule a call with us. And let's talk it out. We're not going to try to sell you anything, but it's an important conversation that needs to be had. Why? Because people tell their children to live their dreams. And then the parents aren't living their dreams and the kids grow up being hypocrites and why did the kids grow up being hypocrites because their parents We're a hypocrite. And that's why mental health is a train wreck right now. And then the last one. Before we close down, every human being says, I want to live the life of my dreams seven days a week. And I go, Oh, yeah, well, what number was that? They go, Oh, well, I had no time leftover for the dreams. So that gets to zero on my chart. And I go, Well, how much time do you spend on your distractions? And Dr. Cliff, what do you think most people spend more time on a lot more time on distractions? That's right. And you know what I tell those people, I say, I love you at all, but you're not a secret, just person. And if you spend more time on your distractions in your dreams, you are not a serious person. But if you've gotten to the bottom of this sheet, and you see the Steve Jobs, quote, there, you got to learn to say no. And you're in 180 190. I mean, I had a real estate team in South Florida. One time, they got to the second priority, and they were at 50 hours ahead of the schedule.

Dr. Cliff Fisher: Ok so John let me bring it back to distractions. What would classify in that? I know we've talked about that a lot. But what do you classify as distractions?

Dr. Cliff Fisher: Yeah, I don't know if you guys, the first couple times I've done this first time I saw this, my eyes went wide open. Because I was living some lies. I wasn't, you know, wasn't intentionally doing it. But I just didn't know. And so the thing that I love about this and having the accountability of having a coach is it really helps you be accountable to what you want, and helps you helps make you better. So if you guys eyes were wide open, you want more information about this, click on the link, go to our website, we'd love to help you live the life of your dreams. John D, thanks for such a great inspirational talk. And, you know, and it is a place where it's like some of these things, it's gotta be hard, like champions, get where they get beat, not because of what they choose to do, but also probably more importantly, what they choose not to do. And that's really what this is about, about like, what are the things that choose not to do and what are the things to choose to do. So thank you, John D. Thank you from DOI, and we will see you guys next week. Thanks God